The Basic Secret to My Success

The basic secret to my success in life is hidden behind the blonde stereotype. Basically I work in a male dominated industry. Then again, come to think of it....I exist in a male dominated world. That's not to say that women don't hold all the power in their hands...they do, they just don't know it or if they do know it, they flaunt it and squander it. Very few women understand this power and usually only at an older age. But back on track for the subject on hand...

Success and blonde stereotypes....the key...listening. I know feminists would raise their fists at me...but it's true. I found at a young age that men young and old alike love to talk of their successes and even secrets to that success if they don't think the listeners are a threat. They especially love to talk to attractive and confident women who find them interesting. Because I am very interested in most topics and because I find the male "species" fascinating, my interests are sincere. I have learned more by keeping my mouth shut and my big blue eyes open with amazement when people have something to say. I'm a sponge and I just ask questions like a 5 year old and because I can ask simple but poignant questions, it keeps the information flowing. I make mental notes for googling later...another great tool. I would guess that I'm quite the street smart female...its one of my tools for surviving in this world. I don't pretend to be able to compete with anyone, especially a man in categories that I'm not equipped to compete in. But if I know I can compete, I will and most won't know what hit them, until it's too late.

Because I've learned that my feminine powers should only be used for good and not evil, my competitors often are not bitter when I have gotten the best of them. It's as if going toe to toe with someone and getting one up on them, earns their respect.

And that's another key to my success...it's far better that everyone leave a winner and strong minded counterpart needs to maintain their ego. I am a very grounded and humble person, so I'm able to keep my ego in check when need be. Winning is not always about everyone knowing that you won...it's about getting what you came for and getting out before anyone has to get their ego damaged. There's no sense in rubbing someone's nose in a loss. I may even chalk up my win as a fluke so that they don't gear up for the next round.

I have made a living and based my success on the fact that I am average in intelligence and I have a tool box full of abilities...I know what I'm good at and who I'm more likely to place higher in achievement while up against. I choose my mentors and my competitors alike...I suppose you could say its manipulation...I call it survival. I have found that success is easier gained amongst competitors that are average or even below average. I realize this is a lazy way of approaching success but it is a main ingredient in the wild...forage where success can be found in abundance not where scarcity exists.

Mainly don't ever take anything or anyone for granted.

Another key component is to try to understand the male counterpart. I have learned to appreciate their ability to be unemotional and detached from personal issues while in the heat of "a hunt". I should define "a hunt"...it's anything that the male has his mind set on acquiring, of course. Men are so fascinating in this capacity. Their ability to focus and maintain a level of commitment to that one thing that they are centered on, no matter what. I am a very emotional person and for the longest time when I was younger I was ashamed that I could not approach things with the same ability of the male counterpart. I later learned to incorporate the male ability while dealing with my emotions. I learned a different way of approaching challenges and I embraced my emotional and sensitive side...I developed an equation that works for me...that left me feminine but yet successful. I can approach challenges with non-personal and pragmatic solutions, but maintain a compassionate and sensitive component that is sometimes the missing aspect of my competitors.

I suppose the next blog should be what represents success....